Day 35 Urtext ACIM pg. 31 Finally We Talk About Sex!

Please bring a prayer and the Holy Spirit with you. Text is bold type, my comments are asterixis.

*I know that I take a lot of liberties in this post to write my understandings of the workings of the human body and psyche as I believe Jesus taught it in several other parts of the text and as I have been taught by Spirit over a lifetime. What I share is done as testimony to what I understand today. This, like everything else, is a work in process.

I submit (I’m using Jack’s language in this section, because it always had a special meaning for you. So did Jack.)

*Note the very personal knowing that Jesus has of the feelings of another. He knows you as well and will assist you on your journey, if you will let him.

Your confusion of sex and statistics is an interesting example of this whole issue.

*Who would have thought that sex and statistics would go together, but where two or more are gathered there God is and sensory stimulation, sensuality, and even erotic feelings can be a part of that. This does not mean they need to be acted on or that it would be appropriate to do so.

*Why? I believe it is because it is the recognition of the energy of the presence of God. An alertness if you will, a heightening of awareness. Humanity has not understood this.

*Jesus explains that in this situation it was the fact that sexuality for these two intellectuals at this time was a concept typically confused with aggression. {See Helen’s note below.)

Note that night you spent in the scent of roses doing a complex factorial analysis of covariance.

*Covariance = in statistics, the mean value of the product of the deviations of two variates from their respective means. = continued evidence of Jesus using words that we can relate to when teaching us.

*The smell of roses, a sensory experience.

Its a funny story to others, because they see a different kind of level confusion than the one you yourself were making. You might recall that YOU wanted that design, and Jack opposed it. One of the real reasons why that evening was so exhilarating was because it represented a “battle of intellects”, (both good ones, by the way), each communicating exceptionally clearly but on opposite sides.

*I love how Jesus is using terms here that do not belittle one or the other, Helen or Jack, especially by means of their gender.

The sexual aspects were naturally touched off in both of you, because of the sex and aggression confusion.

*sex and aggression confusion (**These are my thoughts on the issue.) When sex is viewed in an aggression format, love is not present, spirit is not recognized, and real oneness is not manifest. We are caught in the illusion of separation which functions in a self attacking mode. When mutual appreciation is in the sexual act it becomes a method of feeling source/God’s energy in the physical form. I suspect this is why it has been called love making. The f-word that is known for denotes attack.

*I suspect that it is very possible for two people to be involved in the sexual act and each to be perceiving it in a different form. A few decades back it was a common societal notion that the male perceived it as aggression. Today the female is accepted in that role in society as well.

*I am speaking of aggression here. Using another as a tool or personal gain or satisfaction, not as a mutual enjoyment opportunity that acknowledges the divine in the other. I wonder if it is even possible unless one walks in Spirit. (This is possible without calling it by a certain name.) I am thinking it may not be. Not in my experience anyway.

*I am thinking of one relationship in particular where, when I was finally no longer afraid of the relationship, (I come from one of those “Me Too” places) my partner lost interest and felt I did not love him. His sense of stability in the relationship came from the instability of my fear. Read that again.

*Because what we are speaking of here is rape. Be it toward male or female, elderly or young ones, it is a form of aggression that needs to be looked at closer as a society.

(It is especially interesting that after the battle ended on a note of compromise with your agreeing with Jack, he wrote in the margin of your notes “virtue is triumphant.” (HS note re submission-dominance, feminine-masculine roles, entered into this.)

*I am sensing a reference to aggression in this statement, especially in Helen’s note.

While this (remark) was funny to both of you at the time, you might consider its truer side. The virtue lay in the complete respect each of your offered to the other’s intellect.

*Did you hear that?!? …complete respect (i. e. appreciation for, acknowledgement of). “Like”.

Your mutual sexual attraction was also shared. The error lay in the word “triumphant”. This had the “battle” connotation, because neither of you was respecting ALL of the other.

*The word triumphant brought in the energy or at least evidence of aggression. Jesus says they had respect for the intellect, but not for other things. The difference of the sexual organs of the body? This could have been. Helen did say the male/female roles and submission/dominance entered into this exchange.

*Sex as humanity now views it still rings of the submission/dominance factor. That is attack. Those who enter these relationships looking for love are lost and often confuse aggression with an expression of love, which it is not. I have long suspected that some of these dating site quizzes may link us with personality types that mesh with ours in this capacity, mistaking it for compatibility.

*For me the conversation felt like a bucket of ice water on my libido. I do not care to participate in a submissive/dominant activity. I want a mutually satisfying experience and I am not speaking about orgasm at all. (This is where I speak from a feminine place that I am not so sure Jesus can relate to. Remember his “tidal wave” comment?)

*I am speaking about feeling heard, seen, and valued and that being sexually fulfilling. In other words respect.

*No wonder guys get all worked up about whether a woman has an orgasm or not. And they call her dysfunctional and make her feel like she is not okay as a sexual partner, because her response is not physiological but emotional.

*It can feel like they want the physical response that basically says “I like getting abused, misused, attacked, ignored, etc.” And we are supposed to scream with passion and delight at the prospect. Being desired has been given an abusive slant. I am not just speaking male/female here. I am speaking of all sexual encounters. Does that really sound like a loving experience! It is a bit ridiculous when you think about it. Yet all too common in the human existence.

“Jesus points out very specifically that the body has not got a mind of its own. It makes no judgments, not even about pain or pleasure. It is the mind that does this based on the emotions one is experiencing and the way you choose to perceive them.

*If a person is in the mental state of accepting Christ’s Guilty Conscience format (subconsciously remember and no matter the gender or age), they will accept mistreatment as their due. As if that was what they had coming to them. And may even praise and willingly serve the abuser/attacker.

There is a great deal more to a person than intellect & genitals. The omission was the Soul.)

(*note that the front parenthesis was omitted, possibly before The.) The Soul or spirit of an individual chooses the definition/perception of its experience. Attack simply has no place in the Oneness of the Whole.

I submit (after a long interruption) that if a mind (Soul) is in valid relationship with God, it CAN’T be upside down.

*Academia at that time tended to see the intellect as an objective and scientific component, whereas today, the mind is thought to be free to utilize the brain as well the heart. (This is a good example how one needs to know the perspective of the era they are studying about because words change their meaning over time.)

Jack & the other very eminent methodologists have abandoned validity in favor of reliability because they have lost sight of the end and are concentrating on the means.

*Here may be a key to such of our dilemma as part of the human race! I just watched a program that suggested that much of our civilized world has been established since the Darwin Theory was accepted. That scarcity could create circumstances that effect DNA and the attributes of humanity as a species. The idea that focus on what the body needs will determine evolution.

*With the acceptance of the Darwin Theory we fell into an easy groove of concentrating on the means instead of the big picture or the end as Jesus stated. We focus on the body, what it eats, keeping it fit, what it wears, where it lives, how to educate the intellect to preserve it and we educate the intellect with the objective of understanding the body primarily while ignoring the spirit within the body.

*We have placed the body as our idol; it is our false god. We seek to respond to physiological reactions instead of looking at the spiritual meaning behind them, i. e. not putting spirit or the divinity within ourselves first.

*This is important because we lose the blessing of the Miracle when we do not start with the divine in mind first. The Miracle being the recognition of the Atonement and the Oneness of all humanity that would make any thought of attack in any form disappear.

*This will not take away our ability to enjoy the bodies we have been given. To acknowledge ourselves through our senses is one of the ways that we acknowledge the glory of God. And that includes sexuality in its proper form. With one whom you see as yourself, and as a part of God because you have accepted the Atonement and offer that recognition to them as well via the Miracle.

* Jesus has said in this Course that the only correct use of sex is to create children because it is always attack. It does not have to always be attack. It can be a celebration of life and physical existence as is eating. Neither is a requirement, in my mind, for true existence. And both are addictive and easily made into forms of self/other attack. But to tell humanity to stop either cold turkey is to end life as we understand it at this time.

*They may be used by the physical form to give pleasure adding to our joy through our ability to glorify God with our thankfulness, once we have accepted the Atonement for oneself and all others. They can symbolize the affection and blessings that the Father would bestow on His Son.

*As stated earlier this is my personal witness at this time. I pray it serves to uplift and enlighten.

Till next time, God bless, Namaste

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